I will not help you stay and wallow in limbo.
I will help you grow, to become more productive, by
your own definition.
I will help you become more autonomous, more loving
of yourself, more free to continue becoming the
authority of your own living.
I cannot give you dreams or "fix you up",
simply because I cannot.
I cannot give you growth, or grow for you. You must
grow yourself, by facing reality, grim as it may seem
I cannot take away your loneliness or pain.
I cannot sense your world for you, evaluate your
goals, or tell you what is best for you in your
world; you have your own world.
I cannot convince you of the crucial choice of
choosing the scary uncertainty of growing over the
safe misery of not growing.
I want to be with you and know you as a rich and
growing friend, yet I cannot get close to you when
you choose not to grow.
When I begin to care for you out of pity, when I
begin to lose trust in you, then I am toxic, bad and
inhibiting for you, and you for me.
You must know - my help is conditional. I will be
with you, hang in there with you, as long as I
continue to get even the slightest hints that you are
trying to grow.
If you can accept all of this, then perhaps we can
help each other to become what God meant for us to
be... Mature adults, leaving childishness forever to